Communications Crash Course by Alixander Laffredo-Dietrich

Author:Alixander Laffredo-Dietrich [Laffredo-Dietrich, Alixander]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2019-03-29T04:00:00+00:00

Real Curiosity

SCF I

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Have you ever been engaged in a conversation with somebody but the only thing that runs through your mind is what should I say next?

Chances are that sounds familiar, since you’re reading this book.

I remember that when I first started trying to hone my skills as a conversationalist, the only thing that was on my mind was figuring out what to say next. I spent my time talking to people trying to anticipate what I needed to say to keep the conversation going. Yet conversations rarely went down the path I had prepared for. I was left speechless and scrambling mentally to find the next “right thing” to say.

The prepackaged lines that I picked up from articles, how-tos, and other sources were rarely useful.

No matter how many canned lines I had in my back pocket, I would never have the “perfect” thing to say due to the seemingly unpredictable nature of conversation. Through this realization, I began to discover that all the prepackaged lines I had learned were fundamentally flawed for this reason:

Conversation isn’t about trying to predict the future—it is about responding to the present moment.

This led me to the conclusion that thinking what should I say next is also fundamentally flawed. When it comes to conversation, believing you can accurately predict what will happen next is an incredibly unrealistic expectation. Switching to the mindset of responding to the present moment raised a much better question.

“What do I hear now?”

This is where SCF I – Real Curiosity excels.

When I began switching my focus from what do I say next to what do I hear now, I realized that the people I was conversing with were handing me every conversational topic I could ask for on a silver platter! Even better than having an infinite number of conversational topics to draw from was this:

I actually learned incredible things from the people I spoke to.

From crazy hobbies to iron-clad opinion to personal stories, the wealth of knowledge and experience that each person harbored began to unfold at an unprecedented rate! I learned to become genuinely curious about other people no matter what the topic was.

What also made me love this SCF was that it required no speaking on my part! For a naturally shy person, becoming a better conversationalist without having to say a word was extremely attractive!

SCF I – Real Curiosity is the foundation for the other SCFs we will discuss. Take it to heart and it will take you far!

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